How to Move On from Someone You Love Deeply Who Chooses Not to Evolve

Letting go of someone you love—truly, deeply love—is one of the hardest things a soul can do.

I’ve walked away from people I cared about before. Friendships, romantic relationships, even family dynamics that I knew were no longer in alignment with my growth. It was painful, but it always felt right. Because deep down, I’ve always wanted to feel true freedom. To live a life of impact, abundance, joy, and purpose. And I never let anyone get in the way of that…

Until him.

This last relationship was unlike anything I’d ever experienced. The kind of connection that goes way beyond chemistry or physical attraction. It was soul-deep. Magnetic. Fun. Painful. It was filled with flow, laughter, shared connection… and yet it was also toxic. The push-pull dynamic, the hot-and-cold energy, the betrayal, the emotional manipulation—it was all there. It was both divine and destructive.

We had a soul contract, no doubt about it. I knew from the beginning that we had lifetimes together. And in this one, our love wasn’t just about romance—it was a sacred agreement to help each other evolve. The question was: would we rise to the lessons?

I did. And I’m so proud to say that.

He didn’t. And I had to accept that.

For seven years, I was in it. I went from obsession and codependency to healing core wounds I didn’t even know were running my life. I learned how to stop overgiving. I stopped abandoning myself just to feel chosen. I stopped waiting to be “enough” for someone who couldn’t choose himself—let alone me.

I learned what self-love actually feels like. Not the bubble bath kind, but the real, gritty, soul-truth kind. The kind that says:

“Even if you don’t choose me, I will choose me. Over and over again.”

I learned how to sit with my pain. The kind of pain that only comes when someone you love refuses to meet you at the level of the connection. The pain of knowing the love is there, but the person can’t access it—because they won’t allow themselves to evolve.

I battled the stories:

• If he doesn’t choose me, maybe I’m not good enough.
  
  
• Maybe I’m not lovable.
  
  
• If not him, then who will ever want me?
  
  

But I saw the truth.

The pain wasn’t coming from the love. The pain came from staying in a dynamic where I had to shrink and put myself aside to keep the connection alive. I had to let go—not because I stopped loving him, but because I started loving me more.

I grieved. I cried. I let go of the vision: waking up beside him, traveling the world together, building a life with someone I thought was my forever. I allowed myself to feel the loss.

But I also began to see the gift.

He activated something in me that no one else could. That’s the thing about soulmate connections—they crack you open. And if you let them, they’ll reveal the places inside of you where your own love was still conditional, still withheld.

This connection gave me the biggest gift of all: me.

My divine feminine.

My wholeness.

My joy.

My power.

My purpose.

And now, I feel free. I feel abundant. I feel so damn proud of the woman I’ve become—not in spite of the pain, but because of it.

To the one I loved: thank you. Thank you for being the fire that burned away my illusions. Thank you for the laughs, the adventures, the love, and the pain. Thank you for being the lesson that taught me how to choose myself.

To those reading this who are in that same space—torn between holding on and letting go—know this:

Love never dies.

But sometimes it’s not meant to last in this lifetime.

Sometimes love comes to awaken you, not to stay.

And when someone chooses not to evolve, it’s not a reflection of your worth—it’s a reflection of their readiness.

You get to rise.

You get to walk away from the pain and into your power.

You get to choose you.

And when you do, something miraculous happens.

You become whole.

If you’re standing at the crossroads—torn between the love you feel and the truth you know—please hear this: you don’t have to navigate it alone.

I’ve walked this path. I’ve sat in the fire. And I’ve come out the other side more whole, free, and aligned than I ever imagined possible.

If you’re ready to reclaim your power, break through the emotional blocks keeping you stuck, and open the door to the love, joy, and abundance you truly deserve… I invite you to book a Breakthrough to Abundance session with me.

In this powerful 90-minute session, we’ll go deep. We’ll identify what’s keeping you stuck, clear it at the root, and reprogram your energy so you can finally align with who you truly are—and what you’re here to experience.

 It’s time to choose you.

 It’s time to rise.

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Let’s turn your pain into power—and your heartbreak into freedom.

Julie Anne