The impact of hard choices
I will be blunt here…. Life is freaking hard…. And sometimes life sucks! However, thanks to those moments, life is also beautiful and magical. Without the hardship, we would not experience the beauty of life. Our capacity to experience amazing moments is directly related to our willingness to experience and face the hard ones….
I’m known to be someone who loves life and is an optimist. I love life but one thing I understood is that to love your life, you have to make hard choices that will allow you to love the experience you have. The choices I’m talking about are those choices where you feel torn apart, or feel like your life will fall into pieces and it’s the end of the world. To move through that, you have to be willing to let go of people, places, circumstances that the human part of you is not necessarily ready to let go of. If you want to set yourself free, it’s important you take an honest look at what you’re hanging on to. Ask yourself what makes it so important? What are you gaining from staying as is? Those hard choices are the ones that will have the biggest impact on your life when made consciously.
They are the ones who will set you free.
We experience a lot of resistance and kick back when faced with difficult decisions and it’s normal. Why? We’re typically attached to either a person, a circumstance, a status, an idea (or story we made up), or an experience. The resistance can show up as you justifying or making yourself believe anything because you fear being “no one” or fear of being alone or not loved, fear of failure, fear of judgment or fear of the unknown, etc. . Regardless, the fear is holding us back from freeing ourselves. And it’s the process of moving through the fear that builds us up and frees us up. It strengthens our resilience, builds our confidence in ourselves which allows us to see that “it’s not the end of the world”, “we’re still alive” and life is actually better on this side!
Don’t get me wrong, it’s hard, you will have to face emotions that make you uncomfortable or truly makes you feel like shit but it’s necessary. Being accompanied by an expert while moving through these moments is crucial. I personally don’t know how I would have done it without my mentor/coach! There are so many nights where I fell asleep crying and woke up with puffy eyes… and never gave up. There was no way I was going to stay in a place where I didn’t feel free or feel like I didn’t contribute or make an impact. There was no way I was going to settle for less and miss the train. There was no way I was not going to experience the deep love and connection that I always wanted. There was no way I was going to miss the possibility of experiencing wealth and freedom on all levels. I remember thinking “I am here to live my life to the fullest and I want to play”!! I wanted to feel and be free. And this is what I have been thriving for the past 12 years. I had to make MANY hard choices and the rewards are so DAMN WORTH IT!
I invite you to be honest with yourself about the hard choices you‘ve been avoiding making. No justifications, no blaming, just simple honesty. It’s by applying this virtue that your true transformation will start.
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