The Energy of Money and Love: Why They Flow on the Same Frequency

There was a time in my life when I kept asking the Universe for two things: more money and a great life partner. On paper, I was doing “all the right things.” I was always able to make really good money — sometimes a lot of it. But somehow, it always slipped away.

Some times, it disappeared because I was paying off my husband’s debts. Another time, it was through a business that looked successful but collapsed in a bad deal. Even when I bounced back and started making good money again, it still seemed to vanish, and I couldn’t understand why.

And here’s the truth: my love life looked exactly the same.

The Same Patterns in Love and Money

On the surface, things seemed fine. I was in relationships, but underneath I was over-giving, over-compromising, and putting myself last. When my marriage ended, I entered a new relationship that was so much fun but toxic at the same time. It was full of passion, yet it mirrored the same push-and-pull I had with money: I gave too much, accepted too little, and settled for things I shouldn’t have.

Just like that business deal where I wasn’t standing in my worth, I was doing the same in love.

The Breakthrough in Meditation

One day in meditation, the answer came to me so clearly it felt like lightning in my chest: love and money are the same frequency.

Both are tied to worthiness.

Because I didn’t fully see my own worth, I was stuck in a cycle of chasing, proving, fighting, and struggling — whether it was for money or love. And the more I believed I had to earn it, the more I created situations where I had to earn it.

To shift, I had to learn how to stand in my worth.

Learning to Choose Myself

That pain of not being chosen by someone else became the very thing that taught me how to finally choose myself. Instead of running toward the person I wanted love or validation from, I had to stay with me. I had to let the discomfort move through my body and remind myself: if he was meant to choose me, he already would have. Sitting with myself in those moments, even when it hurt, was what allowed the pain to soften and eventually dissolve. It made me stronger and wiser.

And as I sat with myself more often, I saw how this pattern showed up everywhere — even in my business. I wanted clients to choose me, to see my worth, to recognize my expertise. So I over-gave. I stretched myself thin. I made myself louder than I needed to be, hoping they would see how good I was. But just like in love, that chasing energy pushed away the very people I wanted to attract.

What I had to learn — and maybe you do too — was how to pause. To see myself. To choose myself. Even when it was uncomfortable. Because the truth is, the pain of not being chosen always grew louder when I was chasing or trying to earn love or clients. Every time I tried to prove my worth, I was reinforcing the belief that I wasn’t already enough. And that belief kept me stuck in relationships and situations where my value could never truly be seen.

The moment I began choosing myself, everything shifted. My confidence grew. My inner peace expanded. I no longer needed to be chosen by someone else to feel valuable. And as my energy changed, what I attracted changed too. Suddenly, aligned clients started flowing in. Opportunities appeared with ease. And in love, I found the strength to walk away from connections that weren’t truly aligned with who I am.

Because when you finally stop chasing and start choosing yourself, you change your frequency. And that’s when life begins to meet you at your true worth.

The Shift in Frequency

As I started to choose myself, my confidence grew. My pain softened. My inner peace expanded. I no longer needed someone else — or a client, or money— to validate me.

That’s when everything shifted.

I started attracting aligned clients who valued my expertise. I was able to walk away from a relationship that had a deep connection but wasn’t aligned with who I truly am. And my finances began to stabilize because I wasn’t leaking energy through over-giving and chasing anymore.

Everything that was built on struggle, proving, and unworthiness fell away — making space for the people, opportunities, love, and money that matched my new frequency.

The Truth

Love and money are not separate. They are both mirrors of how you value yourself. The energy you emit — whether it’s lack, struggle, or worthiness — is the energy that comes back to you.

When you stop chasing and start choosing yourself, you shift your frequency. And when you raise your frequency, you don’t just call in more money or more love — you call in what’s aligned, abundant, and true.

The next time you find yourself over-giving, chasing, or trying to prove your worth — pause. That’s the very moment you’re being asked to choose yourself. And when you do, everything changes.

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